Call A-waiting

Dear Uncle Trey Pound: After going on a date and giving a guy my number, how long should I wait for him to call me before giving up on him? Signed, Call A-waiting Dear Call: The answer is painfully simple: you shouldn't wait for him at all. Anyone who can't find five minutes in the course of his day to call you and say, "Hey I just wanted to say hi." doesn't deserve your patience. Get on with the business of living your life, continue to meet people and go out. That way you're not sitting by the phone waiting for someone who may never get his act together. Good luck!

Seeking Employee "Benefits"

Dear Uncle Trey Pound: I've been having a flirtation with a good-looking coworker. Things have been getting more and more flirtatious, and it seems like something might be inevitable. We're both single, so it wouldn't be infringing on anyone's relationship. A friend of mine says there's nothing wrong with consenting adults "getting to know each other better." What do you think Uncle Trey Pound? Signed, Seeking Employee "Benefits" Dear Benefits: No, no, no. I've said it before, and apparently I'm going to have to say it again: do NOT poop where you eat. And screwing around with your coworker, no matter how dreamy he may be, definitely counts as pooping where you eat. There are few ways that this can have a happy ending: if one of you hurts the other one, every day when you clock in you've got a reminder of what a fool you made of yourself; those you work with might start to wonder just what you did to deserve that last raise. And let's not even think about all the ways it could bite you on the butt if you're misinterpreting his attention. He could just be one of those really friendly guys that relates to others in a flirtatious fashion. Making a move on him could be a good way to get a sexual harassment complaint filed against you. Either way, you're asking for trouble. And if you keep asking for it, eventually you're going to get it.

Flying Solo

Dear Readers: The following question was one of many with the same theme. Since they all basically asked the same question, I distilled it down to one straight-forward one: Dear Uncle Trey Pound: Where are all the good men? Signed, Flying Solo Dear Solo: It might seem that the ever-elusive Good Man is an endangered species, but they do still exist. The important (not to mention difficult) part is not lowering your standards while you're waiting for Mr. Right to come along. There's a difference between settling down and just plain settling, so don't latch onto the first guy that wanders through your life. Keep those standards high and you'll draw quality men to you. Keep your standards too low and you'll continue to get nothing but trash.

Thank you, Jerry.

Yesterday afternoon, I found out that a local broadcasting legend died after a short battle with cancer. Jerry Wayne was half of the Breakfast Club morning radio show on 107.9 WNCT. For 14 years, he's entertained eastern NC, easing us into productive (or sometimes not so productive) days. He raised money for the Children's Miracle Network through annual telethons and made countless appearances at charity events and fundraisers throughout the area. But more important than that is his legacy. See, I've always believed that a life spent giving joy and happiness to others is a life well-spent. And by that yardstick, Jerry Wayne lived an extremely well-spent life. That legacy will endure far longer than his brief time on this earth. My heart goes out to his family--both his family at home, and his family at the station. As someone who has relied on Jerry and his partner Donna Kelly for morning motivation, I know mornings will never be the same. I thank you Jerry, for sharing your mornings with us for all these years. God bless.

Jerry Wayne

1970-2009

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